Everyday Ageism: FEMAIL columnist CHRISTA D'SOUZA

Everyday Ageism: FEMAIL columnist CHRISTA D’SOUZA says she chose to go prematurely grey 18 months ago and felt like a trendsetter… until two Greek ladies read her the riot act

  • Christa D’Souza does not regret her decision to go prematurely grey
  • But she says her feeling of being a trendsetter was destroyed last week
  • Went on holiday to Greek island of Mykonos and had a change of heart at dinner
  • Two Greek ladies told her she had to get her hair cut and get rid of the grey
  • Says she does not have the bravery to be old and go with it rather than against it

It’s the last tolerated prejudice. But Femail’s had enough. It’s time we called out those day-to-day moments when we’re patronised for no longer being young… 

It was around 18 months ago when I made the decision to go prematurely grey. I haven’t regretted it for one second and even feel a bit of a trendsetter because of it.

Or did, until a holiday on glamorous Greek isle Mykonos last week.

The change of heart came after dinner one night when two very well-preserved Greek ladies I know, one 61 and one 74, took me aside, sat me down and read me the riot act.

Christa D’Souza (pictured) explains why she isn’t surprised that over-50s might have to go back into lockdown

In no uncertain terms they told me I needed to get my hair cut immediately, preferably above my shoulders and, even more importantly, I needed to get rid of the grey. 

What on earth was I trying to prove by looking my age (60)? 

Is that what women in London are doing, for heaven’s sake?

Greeks may be blunter than we Brits, and these two ladies are particularly so but, even taking that into account, their words gave me pause for thought.

What am I trying to prove by looking my age if not slightly older? 

Being old and going with it rather than against it requires a bravery which I fear, perhaps because of Covid, may have temporarily faltered.

Time to go back to the hairdresser, I think.

In no uncertain terms they told me I needed to get my hair cut immediately, preferably above my shoulders and, even more importantly, I needed to get rid of the grey. 

What on earth was I trying to prove by looking my age (60)? Is that what women in London are doing, for heaven’s sake?

Greeks may be blunter than we Brits, and these two ladies are particularly so but, even taking that into account, their words gave me pause for thought.

What am I trying to prove by looking my age if not slightly older? 

Being old and going with it rather than against it requires a bravery which I fear, perhaps because of Covid, may have temporarily faltered.

Time to go back to the hairdresser, I think.

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